In smaller schools, teachers can have a much greater individual influence on how the school is run. In this case, the kids that opted out of religious instruction classes made a significant difference that the teachers seemed to resent. The lack of communication from the teachers to the parents and the board of trustees is terrible!
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My child was injured by a classmate who attended RI, after the RI lesson when her friend was likely frightened for my child’s lack of belief. Her fear manifested in a way that she twisted my child’s arm until she screamed in pain. That was Connect program that tells RI kids, bad things will happen to those who don’t follow God. – A.R. (Facebook)
I’ve just found out my son has been attending a RI class every Friday morning from 9-9:30. Apparently it goes for 6 weeks. As I just found out (and I had specifically opted him OUT of RI when I enrolled him – he’s 5) I asked to have him opted out again and was told he would have to sit in the school office during it or not be brought to school until 9:30am. Is this right? I’m not a happy camper. – L.S. (Facebook)
Gosh I withdrew my daughter from Religious education when she was at primary school because she was scared of being “punished”. Ridiculous clap trap that was being fed to these impressionable kids! And it was done without parental permission – till I discovered it. She is 29 years old (almost) and I cant believe it is still in our schools. They were unable to produce a curriculum or tell me what the content was. Apparently I was meant to know….. I asked that we have education about different doctrines and religions because there were kids who were Hindi, Buddhist and Muslim and no doubt others at the school. But I was treated like a pariah. Unbelievable that we are still dealing with this! – H.B. (Facebook)
To all those saying you can just opt out; when I opted out it was usually library time, but sometimes we were made to do cleaning and other things. One time we spent RI moving bricks. I didn’t mind as anything was better than RI but some kids will feel punished and 2nd class with this kind of behaviour. – J.B. (Facebook)
My daughter has gone from feeling obligated to do ‘cool bananas’ to proper bible classes, none of this was agreed to by me, my daughter wasn’t asked and was told to cover her ears during to bible lesson. I’m bloody fuming WTF can I do? She feels pressure to do it socially and the teacher tells me that she will be given an iPad at the back of the class if she doesn’t want to. – J.S (Facebook)
I went to a primary school where if you didn’t want to study Religious(christian) education you were sent to sit in the library for 2 hours and you weren’t aloud to talk and were treated like you were in detention. When we went back to the classroom all the kids who stayed for the christian learning were given lollies and told not to share with us heathens – Some christian values being taught there!!! – D.S. (Facebook)
I when signed my 2 sons out of relgious education and they got left in a room to read a book by themselves. They got no education for that hour every week. The principle is a christian and forced his beliefs on the kids and started his own church in the school hall. – J.K. (Facebook)
Can’t believe this is still going on! I remember having to sit outside the classroom by myself because I refused to listen to their nonsense when they wouldn’t/couldn’t answer my questions. – A.K. (Facebook)
Often because it is a pain in the butt to do so even when opting out kids don’t actually go anywhere, t has been to 3 different schools where he’s stayed in the same class and participated because it was easier than sending him to the library despite having very specifically opted out. – H.W. (Facebook)
Our school had Bible studies with an opt out option. The head of the New Entrants strongly encouraged people not to opt out, so there children would not feel ostracized – nice.- T.O. (Facebook)
I had exempt myself from RI but then was accused of truancy. My school principal called me to the office “very disappointed” and then asked if I was Buddhist, Hindu, Brethren or other. I of course said no and was then told that I AM a Christian then. What a disgusting response. I thankfully had the presence of mind to tell her that I absolutely knew I was not a Christian so was allowed to remain absent of the Christian indoctrination classes. I just wonder what would have happened had I not had that clear view and confidence to reject her claim. She literally tried to bully and trick me in to attending these classes. Awful. – (Comment on Waikato Times article)
Walked into my child’s class today to find them getting children to pray… My opted out child included. Why? Other classes were on trips. I was PISsEd!! My girl saw and quickly reminded me not to make a scene 😳 sorry babe, “keep religion out of classrooms” was my loud and proud statement, to which I got the response “we were only praying”. What the actual fuck?! – J.S. (Facebook)
About 10 years ago my oldest child started primary school. Our local primary school was a small country school with 3 teachers and 2 classrooms. I don’t remember discussing Religious Instruction at the time she started or when our son started 2 years later.
Eventually our children came home & started telling us…
“God made this.”
“Oh did he?”
“Yes he did, Mrs H said so.”
“Oh, Ok. Well that’s what some people believe, but remember not everyone believes that.”
“But Mrs H said God made everything! Is she telling lies? What do you believe?”
“Well I’m a scientist & I believe that the explanation Mrs H gave you is how some people explain how things came to be. Other cultures believe different things, like the Maori believe in different Gods & that Maui pulled the North Island out of the sea from his canoe the South Island.. It’s how people explain things before science.”
“But Mrs H said….”
My children tolerated RI, they found it boring as they did the same things each year and one day they asked if they had to keep doing it. I talked to them about the classes and decided they were old enough to make this decision. I looked into it through the MOE and saw that all that was required was a letter to the school saying the children were not to attend the classes anymore. So we did this.
Unfortunately, on the same day, a second family also opted out and that week 4 children in the senior class opted out of RI classes. When the total role of your primary school is less than 30, and all of a sudden the teachers had 8 students to organise rather than 4, and as the school is officially closed while the RI classes take place, it was considered difficult. The classes took place on Tuesday, in the middle of the day. The children who had opted out were put in the library, often supervised by a Teacher Aide.
My children were asked by their teacher why they had opted out, they were told in front of the class that their parents had given “silly excuses” for opting them out. They were told in front of the class that their parents were not aware of the value of the classes in teaching “Morals & values” and that they would be responsible for the RI teacher “losing her job” and especially if other children followed their lead and opted out. The students were pulled from class and questioned in private by the teachers. The students were told how inconvenient it was that so many children now required supervision while the RI classes took place. Every Tuesday the students would know that their teacher would be in a bad mood because she would need to find something for them to do while the classes took place. At times, the students were reduced to tears by the teachers both in private & in front of the class.
At no time, did the teachers approach the parents of the children who had opted out.
Both my children and the other 2 children who opted out on the same day, had parents on the BOT.
All the teachers attended Church regularly and took the students opting out personally. It was as if the teacher’s choice to believe in God & my children opting out was an affront to their own beliefs.
The students considered that everything Mrs H said was fact – they considered her a “teacher” just like their other teachers! They could not understand why what Mrs H said was not the same as Mrs S teaching them maths or science. They could not understand why they could opt out of this class but not the others. They did not understand why their parents would say “No, you don’t have to do this class.” & yet their teachers seemed to hate them for it.
I will always regret, that I did not take the teachers to task over their treatment of these students. The students were subjected to emotional blackmail and repeated bullying by their teachers. Unfortunately, experience told me that talking to the teachers could make the bullying worse. Fortunately soon after, the school closed and my children moved to other schools where RI was not an issue.
This experience taught my children that adults would not always respect their decision to believe in different things. They learned that adults they trusted and respected could and would turn against them and treat them badly. They learned that being a “good Christian” & going to church every week, does not always mean you are a nice person.
Have you or your children been treated badly because of religious instruction at school? You can email me your story here.